Thursday, May 19, 2005

More Kierkegaard

More stuff to ponder.

"In truth it is impossible to love one's neighbor more than oneself, because love of others can grow only out of proper self-love. You cannot love your neighbor and hate yourself."

If you don't love yourself, you will be unable to love your neighbor. If you do love yourself, you can still not love your neighbor. Interesting.

"Only when love is a duty is it eternally secure. The sense of duty drives out all doubt and anxiety, because it excludes all possibility of change; whereas love based on emotion and feeling can change, and so is not secure. Emotional love may for a period be so intense that the heart burns with passion; but in that passion there is always anxiety that eventually the fire will burn itself out. This anxiety leads us constantly to test the other's love, to reassure oneself that all is well. But this testing is a sign of lack of confidence. Yet if love is a duty, a binding commitment before God, then there is no need to test. Emotions and feelings may come and go; but dutiful love lasts forever."

"...true love is eternal and unchanging. True love is simple: it makes no calculations, it does not count the cost, it does not doubt. It may seem at times that emotional love is stronger, bcause it is more intense. But we should not confuse intensity with strength."

Mmmm...stuff to chew on. *chomp chomp*

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If you can't directly at some one's eyes, what does that mean? Just thinking out loud here.

2 comments:

  1. "This anxiety leads us constantly to test the other's love, to reassure oneself that all is well. But this testing is a sign of lack of confidence."

    this hit me... smack in the face.. .. SMACK!
    it hurt.. .. but i think i recovered.. . with more insight... and i know what i have to fix...

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  2. "This anxiety leads us constantly to test the other's love, to reassure oneself that all is well. But this testing is a sign of lack of confidence."

    this hit me... smack in the face.. .. SMACK!
    it hurt.. .. but i think i recovered.. . with more insight... and i know what i have to fix...

    ReplyDelete