"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Pro. 31:30
Brothers, when will we stop treating our sisters like the world tells us to treat them and start loving them like Christ loves the church? Christ died for the church, the simple question is then ... are we willing to die for our sisters? I suspect our sisters would be better served by us learning to protect and guarding their purity instead of us robbing them of a single-minded pursuit of Christ by our crippling attempts to have "my-best-friend-that's-a-girl" relationships. And I suspect our sisters would be better served if they didn't have to worry about their brothers in Christ deferring to those who are more physically attractive. You wonder why all the "nice guys" are "losing"? Its the same reason why non-Christians don't find Christianity attractive ... y'all are acting just like your so called "secular" brethren. That ain't attractive. It's a pretty weak-sauce pool to be selecting from, we don't need so-called Christian guys populating that pool. Ok ... fine sure, you may not push the physical boundaries of relationships ... but you toy with the emotional ones. Yeah, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Stop being an emotional whore.
Hey guys, let me ask you, are your interactions with girls above reproach?
Please, I'm not saying to ignore the sisters, because I think one of the hardest things as a Christian guy is to learn how to relate to sisters in a Christ-like way. But sheesh, gentlemen, we need to learn to take initiative...learn how to be clear cut, not to beat around the bush and to lay the cards on the table. Stop trying to be smooth and subtle. Stop being shady. You are held personally responsible if your irresponsibility causes a sister to stumble. Come ON.